Embracing Grace

Becoming Gentle With Yourself

Release the pressure to perform, embrace your worth, and learn to meet yourself with compassion.

For the Women Who…

  • Your mind rarely rests. You replay conversations, overanalyze decisions, and carry the quiet fear that you’ve missed something or fallen short — even when no one else notices. Even when you’re accomplishing more than most, you still feel like you’re falling behind — because the finish line keeps moving.

  • Even when your body needs rest, your mind won’t pause. A quiet voice whispers, ‘You should be doing more.’ Slowing down feels unsafe, like you’re falling behind.

  • You celebrate other people’s wins but quietly wonder, “When will it be my turn?” No matter what you accomplish, it rarely feels like enough to silence the inner critic.

  • People lean on you for support, assuming you have it all together. Inside, you wish someone would see how heavy it feels to hold it all without letting anything drop.

  • You crave peace — the kind that comes from being valued for who you are, not what you do. You want to quiet the inner pressure and finally breathe

How This Often Shows Up

Holding yourself to impossible standards

Downplaying your accomplishments

Struggling to accept compliments

Feeling guilty for saying “no”

Pushing through exhaustion

Talking to yourself in ways you’d never speak to a friend

Believing you need to earn rest, love, or acceptance

Comparing yourself constantly to others

Over explaining your choices

Hiding your struggles

Avoiding risks or new opportunities

Feeling like your worth is measured by productivity

Feeling like joy has to be earned

Shrinking your faith to fit others’ expectations

If self-compassion feels hard, you’re not failing. It’s a practice, you just haven’t had the tools yet.

Let’s start building those tools together.

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Why Self-Compassion Matters

  • A woman with curly brown hair is lying on a green cushion on a dark wooden floor, with her eyes closed and a relaxed expression.

    Quiet the inner critic so it doesn’t run your life

  • A young woman with short, natural hair smiling and talking to someone in a white and grey long-sleeve shirt, wearing hoop earrings, in a bright indoor setting.

    Find balance between your goals and your well-being

  • A woman with curly dark hair sitting outdoors at a wooden table, looking at the camera with a slight smile, with a glass of an amber-colored beverage, a notebook, and a mug in front of her, surrounded by green plants and trees.

    Pause before spiraling into shame or overthinking

  • A joyful woman with dark braided hair and earrings, smiling with her eyes closed, against a soft pink background, embracing herself.

    Feel enough without having to prove it

Black Therapist Olivia Ruffin MS, NCC, LPC

Olivia Ruffin, MS, NCC, LPC

“Change doesn’t have to wait. You’ve done enough pushing through on your own — now it’s time to learn a new way forward. Therapy can help you get there.”

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What I specialize in

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